Mass Media, Technology, and Mental Development of Children
These last days, we almost can not be separated from the frenetic news porn video scandal similar artists who are already scattered freely on the internet. Apart from any criticism or news that flashed into the artists involved, we do need is concerned that the spread of recording, already accessible to the various groups, including children. Even long before the excitement of this video appears, we must remember also the spread of sex videotape of former officials, students, artists dressed, and many more.
All are activities that tend to be taboo in the culture of our society, especially for children. And no doubt, cases involving these famous artists to the attention of public and government that is big enough because they are public figures, so make more circles that tend to want to know, what is being reported by the mass media.
We have to admit, in this modern-paced era, the spread of any information, whether positive or negative, relatively difficult to avoid, as well as information that should be reserved for adults who are ready and unseen receive such information. Moreover, growth of the Internet and devices are getting cheaper and increasingly we need for daily activities, allowing easier access.
Certainly will not be effective if we as parents, we just ban children and scold when we experience it is to consume adult classified information, either through the internet, mobile phones, televisions or other technological tools, because it will bring a great curiosity in children , and the edges, will be easily tempted to find out in real practice, as most reported so far in various mass media.
Therefore, the key to protect our baby from the negative impact of technological advances, while we are able to maximize the positive aspects of the technology, is COMMUNICATION. Like any relationship whatever it is, including the relationship between husband and wife, COMMUNICATION is the most effective means to provide feedback to each other, understand each other, providing mutual understanding, and learning from each other in achieving a win-win solution in every problem whatsoever.
Angry, forced, forbid, punish, or other emotional action, tends to increase feelings of distress and the desire to rebel in children, which ultimately, will be difficult for parents in the planting of appropriate value.
Communication between parent-child areas are good (that is, children feel comfortable every time communicating with their parents, rather than depressed or afraid), would be far more effective way to instill values than external factors. Only when the child does not feel comfortable when he was at home, that's when outside factors (friends, media, etc.) have a significant influence.
So, how effective air-COMMUNICATION easy for children to understand the meaning intended parents?
Here, FITNESS required core information to be communicated between parent and child mental development, which generally follow the development of his age.
Undeniably, the intellectual development to the faster and earlier thanks to the influence of nutrition, environment and upbringing. In contrast, mental development need continuous process of synergy between parent-child-environment until the child begins to be able to take responsibility for independently in adulthood.
Therefore, we present some of these tips you can try the parents in instilling normative values (especially related to sex behavior):
1. Utilizing parable / metaphor and OFFICIAL LOVE
This is especially when a child under the age of at least 7 years (approximately grade 2), asked where he was born.
Better parents avoid answers that hard to accept common sense because someday in the future, children will be hard to believe the parents if it is in fact not like that delivered a parent.
Better parents provide answers to love, such as Cinderella and fairy tale love story of love that is, the child was born. So was born the concept of "Love", became the norm in the information recorded on the child.
Above the age of 7 th - the beginning of puberty behind, parents can add the concept of "Love" is the concept of "Official", in the eyes of religion and law, such as children born from Love which has been officially united by religion and law in the form of marriage legitimate.
So when a child has entered puberty period behind (teenagers and above), the values of "Love" and "Official" has been recorded in the child's personality, so that subsequently, the duty of parents is lighter relative to guide the child to adapt to changes in organ function has begun to mature. Just at that moment, a new child can learn about the beginning of the "Biological Process" formation of the birth of children with the values of "Love" and "official" embedded.
2. Showing happiness that emanated from the wedding photographs of parents
3. Showing happiness that emanated from the child's birth documents, the results of Love's love in the form of official marriage.
4. Menekankankan and always repeat the word "BELIEVE same Mom and Dad's brother (or the child's nickname), and that brother will always use the trust's father and mother very well"
5. Explain that sex behavior as shown by artists and others as reported in various media and the internet, it is not "Love" because it is not accounted for "Official" in the presence of religion and law. Therefore, such behavior, will not produce happiness for themselves.
This applies, even when the child is a teenager and started dating relationship, so that the value / keyword "Love", "Official", and "Parents Believe" that has been embedded in the principle of life of children, child's mental condition would have relatively ready to protect yourself from the temptation to have sexual relations before their time, although with a boyfriend themselves.
6. Last but not least, is the MODELING of parents. Without "MODELING" is consistent with the fact that views of children, then steps 1 through 5 will be less effective, or more precisely, in vain.
As a proverb says, "Little by little, long into the hills." Similarly, with mental development in the future young generation, especially our children.
We can not fix the past, we can not shut themselves from the development era, we also can not avoid a very rapid technological progress, but we can learn from mistakes and correct them for the sake of a better future. And, it all depends on ourselves each time in
All are activities that tend to be taboo in the culture of our society, especially for children. And no doubt, cases involving these famous artists to the attention of public and government that is big enough because they are public figures, so make more circles that tend to want to know, what is being reported by the mass media.
We have to admit, in this modern-paced era, the spread of any information, whether positive or negative, relatively difficult to avoid, as well as information that should be reserved for adults who are ready and unseen receive such information. Moreover, growth of the Internet and devices are getting cheaper and increasingly we need for daily activities, allowing easier access.
Certainly will not be effective if we as parents, we just ban children and scold when we experience it is to consume adult classified information, either through the internet, mobile phones, televisions or other technological tools, because it will bring a great curiosity in children , and the edges, will be easily tempted to find out in real practice, as most reported so far in various mass media.
Therefore, the key to protect our baby from the negative impact of technological advances, while we are able to maximize the positive aspects of the technology, is COMMUNICATION. Like any relationship whatever it is, including the relationship between husband and wife, COMMUNICATION is the most effective means to provide feedback to each other, understand each other, providing mutual understanding, and learning from each other in achieving a win-win solution in every problem whatsoever.
Angry, forced, forbid, punish, or other emotional action, tends to increase feelings of distress and the desire to rebel in children, which ultimately, will be difficult for parents in the planting of appropriate value.
Communication between parent-child areas are good (that is, children feel comfortable every time communicating with their parents, rather than depressed or afraid), would be far more effective way to instill values than external factors. Only when the child does not feel comfortable when he was at home, that's when outside factors (friends, media, etc.) have a significant influence.
So, how effective air-COMMUNICATION easy for children to understand the meaning intended parents?
Here, FITNESS required core information to be communicated between parent and child mental development, which generally follow the development of his age.
Undeniably, the intellectual development to the faster and earlier thanks to the influence of nutrition, environment and upbringing. In contrast, mental development need continuous process of synergy between parent-child-environment until the child begins to be able to take responsibility for independently in adulthood.
Therefore, we present some of these tips you can try the parents in instilling normative values (especially related to sex behavior):
1. Utilizing parable / metaphor and OFFICIAL LOVE
This is especially when a child under the age of at least 7 years (approximately grade 2), asked where he was born.
Better parents avoid answers that hard to accept common sense because someday in the future, children will be hard to believe the parents if it is in fact not like that delivered a parent.
Better parents provide answers to love, such as Cinderella and fairy tale love story of love that is, the child was born. So was born the concept of "Love", became the norm in the information recorded on the child.
Above the age of 7 th - the beginning of puberty behind, parents can add the concept of "Love" is the concept of "Official", in the eyes of religion and law, such as children born from Love which has been officially united by religion and law in the form of marriage legitimate.
So when a child has entered puberty period behind (teenagers and above), the values of "Love" and "Official" has been recorded in the child's personality, so that subsequently, the duty of parents is lighter relative to guide the child to adapt to changes in organ function has begun to mature. Just at that moment, a new child can learn about the beginning of the "Biological Process" formation of the birth of children with the values of "Love" and "official" embedded.
2. Showing happiness that emanated from the wedding photographs of parents
3. Showing happiness that emanated from the child's birth documents, the results of Love's love in the form of official marriage.
4. Menekankankan and always repeat the word "BELIEVE same Mom and Dad's brother (or the child's nickname), and that brother will always use the trust's father and mother very well"
5. Explain that sex behavior as shown by artists and others as reported in various media and the internet, it is not "Love" because it is not accounted for "Official" in the presence of religion and law. Therefore, such behavior, will not produce happiness for themselves.
This applies, even when the child is a teenager and started dating relationship, so that the value / keyword "Love", "Official", and "Parents Believe" that has been embedded in the principle of life of children, child's mental condition would have relatively ready to protect yourself from the temptation to have sexual relations before their time, although with a boyfriend themselves.
6. Last but not least, is the MODELING of parents. Without "MODELING" is consistent with the fact that views of children, then steps 1 through 5 will be less effective, or more precisely, in vain.
As a proverb says, "Little by little, long into the hills." Similarly, with mental development in the future young generation, especially our children.
We can not fix the past, we can not shut themselves from the development era, we also can not avoid a very rapid technological progress, but we can learn from mistakes and correct them for the sake of a better future. And, it all depends on ourselves each time in
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